Toxic Talk

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Toxic Talk Oh my!! You should have seen her jaw drop to her knees when she found out e-v-e-r-y-one was talking about it.  Her face flushed beet red as the flow of hot tears streamed down her face.  She stood there speechless, as her private life was being openly discussed without her permission.  The embarrassment and humiliation…should be the worst part…but no…there was so much more to come.

She had just recently found out from her best friend, that her husband was possibly having an affair, and now her best friend, or so she thought, had aired this in public with a group of friends.

The room buzzed as if electricity was free-flowing in the air.  As each lady heard the story, she couldn’t wait to walk away and retell her version of what she assumed was truth.  But really, truth wasn’t what they were interested in.

The gossip grew non-stop to a preposterous magnitude of destruction leaving the young couple’s lives and reputations in shambles in just one afternoon.


It was a mistake… I take it back!

He wasn’t having an affair.  He was interviewing at a hotel conference room for a big job interview and didn’t tell his wife, so he could surprise her with good news.

The bad news is… you can’t take it back!

MED0000665 What GOSSIP?

Here are a few ways the Encarta Dictionary describes gossip:


  1.  Conversation about the personal details of other people’s lives, whether rumor or fact, especially malicious.
  2. Habitual talker:  Somebody who habitually discusses the personal details of others’ lives.

People who gossip have no regard for the other person.  Sometimes they are addicted to the drama and hype that goes along with trashing a person or getting back at them.  Have you ever heard someone say, “Just telling it like it is?”  Usually that statement is a long way from the truth.

How serious is gossip?

Gossip is Toxic…It Kills!! 



Gossip kills Trust, Reputations, Marriages, Friendships, Churches, and basically anything in its path.


Have you ever been on the receiving end of idle gossip?  I have.  It was just mindless chatter about my personal life and their opinions …but it hurt.  When gossip is involved, no matter how seemingly small, people get hurt.

God’s Word speaks strongly about gossip.

Leviticus 19:9 says:  “Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among the people.”

Proverbs 18:7 “A fools mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul.”

Gossip is sin!  It is “talk” in its most toxic form.

The harsh reality is that gossip is one of the most destructive ways to defeat, depress, and tear apart a person’s self-esteem; ultimately ruining their reputation.  The worst part…it doesn’t even have to be the truth.

When gossip starts, here are a few verses to help keep you quiet and give you the courage to say, “This is wrong!  I don’t like where this is going,”  and then walk away!

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  Matthew 7:12

“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips! ” Psalm 141:3

“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” Proverbs 21:23

“Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out:  so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.” (gossip dies)  Proverbs 26:20

–If more of us will take a stand against “toxic talk” our world would be a kinder place.

I would love to hear your thoughts and discussion on this post.


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  1. Could not agree more. I have people trying to bring me into their gossip. Even involving my ex husband. I say..Show me proof…They never can produce it so the gossip stops right there with me. I wont spread it or participate in it.

    • It is a for sure a problem that is so accepted as normal. Pretty much just not participating stops it around me. Thanks for stopping by and giving honest feedback.

  2. This is such a good reminder and caution to all of us. Gossip is a sin that we need to be on guard against and not allow ourselves to “slip” into doing it. Thank you.

    • I agree Joy. It is one of those sneaky sins. We ahve to guard against conversations turning to gossip. thanks so much for stopping by. I enjoy coming to your blog so much. Have a great weekend.

  3. Gossip has got to be the “Ebola virus” of relationships! And, sadly, we can all so easily become carriers. Thanks for reminding us how deadly it is. Blessings, Donna

  4. Love this! It reminds me of that old advice, “Before you speak ask yourself: is it helpful? is it kind? is it true?” If the answer to any of those questions is no then you shouldn’t be saying it.

    • Ashley you are right. Those are great questions to ask! My Mom used to say if you can’t say something nice, just don’t say anything at all. Thanks for stopping by!

  5. When someone approaches you with “Have you heard…” or the classic, “We need to pray for…” as a lead in to nothing more than gossip…I pray the Lord will move me to do the right thing: Turn around and walk away or ask them before they start, “Is this gossip?” Usually stops it right there, lol. You are so right, it is nothing more than sin, dear Lord,help me to keep a watchman at the door of my mouth!

  6. I totally agree, theres nothing worse than a gossip!

    Thanks for participating in last weeks party, I wanted to stop by and invite you to “Weekends Are Fun Party” Oh My Heartsie Girl, again this week. Hope to see you there!!

    • Karen, thank you for reminding me of the link-up. I am on your FB page to get notifications but I don’t hardly get to see your page on my wall. I am heading over. 🙂



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